{"id":3113,"date":"2013-05-09T02:43:51","date_gmt":"2013-05-08T23:43:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/daimon.me\/blog\/?p=3113"},"modified":"2013-05-09T02:43:51","modified_gmt":"2013-05-08T23:43:51","slug":"placeri-scenarii-moarte","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/daimon.me\/blog\/2013\/05\/placeri-scenarii-moarte\/","title":{"rendered":"Pl\u0103ceri, scenarii, moarte"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u00cenc\u0103 nu cred c-am discutat despre sinucidere pe-aici, este? Lucru curios, nu m-a interesat niciodat\u0103 tema dincolo de floricelele desenate de Cioran pe marginea chestiunii.<\/p>\n

~*~<\/p>\n

M\u0103 g\u00e2ndeam la ideea lui Eric Berne, aceea de life script<\/em>. Omu’ adun\u0103 frumos experien\u0163e \u00een via\u0163\u0103, le filtreaz\u0103 prin capul s\u0103u propriu, uneori prin prostiile r\u0103mase acolo din \u00eenv\u0103\u0163\u0103turile sau exemplul prost al apropia\u0163ilor. Pe m\u0103sur\u0103 ce omu’ \u00eemb\u0103tr\u00e2ne\u015fte g\u00eendirea se scor\u0163ose\u015fte, unii ar spune c\u0103 \u00een semn de maturitate<\/a>. Berne propune teoria c\u0103 omul ar ajunge s\u0103 joace o pies\u0103 de teatru de pe la 45 de ani, urm\u0103rind un scenariu ale c\u0103rui elemente le-a exersat \u015fi ranforsat de-a lungul timpului.<\/p>\n

De-un exemplu practic, s\u0103 v\u0103 spun despre o oarecare tip\u0103 ce-o \u015ftiam acu’ c\u00e2\u0163iva ani. Pl\u0103cut\u0103 la vorb\u0103 \u015fi oarecum ok \u00een interese (cred c\u0103 am cunoscut-o datorit\u0103 pasiunii comune pentru Phoenix?), da’ cu o lips\u0103 cras\u0103 de fler la ales b\u0103rba\u0163ii ((m\u0103 rog, b\u0103ie\u0163ii)). O dezam\u0103gise unu’ destul de r\u0103u pe c\u00eend era crud\u0103, sau cel pu\u0163in a\u015fa pretindea ea; cert este c\u0103-\u015fi c\u0103uta numa’ oameni care n-aveau nici o treab\u0103 cu ce-i pl\u0103cea ei, cu interesele sau hobby-urile sale. Urmarea evident\u0103 era c\u0103 dup\u0103 o vreme de stat \u00eempreun\u0103 ei fie o \u00een\u015felau direct fie doar o p\u0103r\u0103seau f\u0103r\u0103 vorbe; cert e c\u0103 lucrurile se terminau prost. La un moment dat \u00eemi povestea cum se apuc\u0103 ea s\u0103-\u015fi \u00een\u015fele prietenu’, s\u0103 aib\u0103 doi gagii deodat\u0103, pentru c\u0103 – nu-i a\u015fa? – oricum urmeaz\u0103 \u015fi ei s\u0103-i fac\u0103 la fel.<\/p>\n

Noa, asta s-ar numi scenariu, sau script<\/em>, fata \u00ee\u015fi pune \u00een minte c\u0103 “to\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163ii e porci” a\u015fa c\u0103 instinctiv \u00ee\u015fi caut\u0103 doar porci pentru a confirma ideea. Idem cu to\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163ii care cred c\u0103 “femeile e curve”. Sunt mii de scenarii pe lumea asta, pesimi\u015ftii cronici tr\u0103iesc \u00eentr-un scenariu, precum cei economi p\u00e2n\u0103 la ridicol sau eternii lefteri. Ar fi un articol \u00eentreg s\u0103 discut\u0103m despre scripts<\/em>, \u015fi nu m\u0103 simt suficient de competent s-o fac eu.<\/p>\n

~*~<\/p>\n

Am realizat o chestie: exist\u0103 un anume tipar de sinuciga\u015fi, acei oameni care spun c\u0103 dom’le totul suge! Via\u0163a personal\u0103 suge, jobul suge, locul unde tr\u0103iesc e na\u015fpa, oamenii-s superficiali, \u015fti\u0163i povestea. Pur \u015fi simplu sim\u0163i c\u0103 nu tr\u0103ie\u015fti tu \u00een via\u0163a proprie, ci doar umpli o cochilie goal\u0103. Sau poate c\u0103 nu \u015fti\u0163i, da’ v\u0103 pute\u0163i imagina ((Apropo, uite \u015fi utilitatea teatrului fa\u0163\u0103 de film: \u00ee\u0163i personific\u0103, \u00ee\u0163i \u00eencarneaz\u0103 tr\u0103iri care altfel sunt \u00een afara obi\u015fnuitului pentru tine. Oric\u00e2te filme bine executate ai vedea pe tem\u0103, o pies\u0103 de genul Norway.Today<\/a> explic\u0103 \u015fi mai bine. Orice-ar fi, ecranul nu se compar\u0103 cu carnea vie.))<\/p>\n

Teoretic, solu\u0163ia a fost deja postat\u0103 pe 4chan ((UNDE ALTUNDEVA?)):<\/p>\n

i never got why people would kill themselves<\/p>\n

so if you want to die you obviously don\u2019t give a shit. like, about anyone. \u2018cause if there is anyone who loves you, you don\u2019t give a FUCK about them, or hurting them, and if there\u2019s not, there\u2019s no one to give a shit about.<\/p>\n

so instead of killing yourself why don\u2019t you just get the fuck out? leave the basement, leave your house, leave the motherfucking country. go on an adventure. spend your time doing something awesome, like tracking down some terrorist. go be james bond. go fuck up a shark with a harpoon. danger? fuck that, you were going up against 100% death rate before, you\u2019re being safe now. fuck EVERYTHING, man, the world is your oyster.<\/p>\n

sometimes i wish i was suicidal. i\u2019d pull the barrel out of my mouth and point it in the air, start a revolution, LIVE. move to barcelona, hit the bars, bang some chicks. STDs, who fucking gives a shit?<\/p>\n

and when i\u2019m done, maybe i won\u2019t want to kill myself, \u2018cause i\u2019ve seen how beautiful the world is.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Chiar sun\u0103 promi\u0163\u0103tor, nu? Dom’le, dac\u0103 tot urmeaz\u0103 s\u0103 mor sinucig\u00e2ndu-m\u0103, hai mai bine s\u0103 aleg calea neprev\u0103zutului. Mor pentru c\u0103 nu-i pas\u0103 nim\u0103nui de mine, prec\u00e2t nici mie nu-mi mai pas\u0103 de al\u0163ii. Oricum mori, deci po\u0163i s\u0103 \u00eencerci orice. Orice! Po\u0163i s\u0103 te fu\u0163i cu boschetari prin parcuri, ce mai conteaz\u0103? Po\u0163i s\u0103 cer\u015fe\u015fti, po\u0163i s\u0103 c\u0103l\u0103tore\u015fti milogindu-te de al\u0163ii, po\u0163i s\u0103 mori \u00eenghe\u0163at, oricum urma s\u0103 se \u00eent\u00e2mple. Po\u0163i s\u0103-i fu\u0163i o palm\u0103 oricui, po\u0163i s\u0103 bagi ce droguri vrei, po\u0163i s\u0103 \u00eencerci Chestii Interzise. Hehehe.<\/p>\n

De-ar fi at\u00e2t de simplu.<\/p>\n

~*~<\/p>\n

Ia hai s\u0103 revenim pu\u0163in la conceptul de scenariu propus de Berne. Omu’ are scenariul vie\u0163ii lui, pe care-l respect\u0103 subcon\u015ftient, doar c\u0103 acesta nu aduce rezultate mul\u0163umitoare. Dac\u0103 ar fi ceva con\u015ftient ar fi pasibil de \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u0163ire, de schimbare, \u00eens\u0103 nu e. E doar un motora\u015f care face alegerile pentru tine, tu \u0163i le asumi f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 le chestionezi ((Sigur, aici e o discu\u0163ie mai larg\u0103. \u00cen principiu oricine e responsabil s\u0103 lupte pentru persoana proprie \u015fi \u00een interesul persoanei proprii, ca atare prostioare gen “am fost influen\u0163at s\u0103” sau “am fost educat s\u0103” nu se accept\u0103. Totu\u015fi, exist\u0103 un teren cel pu\u0163in gri \u00een care influen\u0163a mediului asupra individului trebuie analizat\u0103.)).<\/p>\n

Nimeni nu “alege” s\u0103 fie \u015fi s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 la un loc de munc\u0103 prost pl\u0103tit \u015fi care nu-i aduce nici o bucurie. \u00cen acela\u015fi timp \u00eens\u0103, poate c\u0103 \u015feful joac\u0103 un rol de satrap \u00een scenariu; poate c\u0103 colegii sunt o mixtur\u0103 perfect\u0103 de mui\u015fti, fix cum \u015ftii tu c\u0103 “a\u015fa e lumea<\/em>” \u015famd. Nu stai pentru c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i place, ci stai pentru c\u0103 toate alternativele \u0163i le imaginezi ca fiind mai proaste, \u015fi anume prin necunoscutul lor. Iar din punctul de vedere al scenariului, chiar ar fi mai proaste. Practic vorbind, subcon\u015ftient, chiar \u00ee\u0163i place!<\/p>\n

Gagica din exemplul dinsus l-ar fi \u00een\u015felat \u015fi pe F\u0103t Frumos Cel Cuminte, doar ca s\u0103 se amuze \u015fi apoi s\u0103-l determine s\u0103 se comporte ca un porc.<\/p>\n

Av\u00e2nd \u00een vedere chestiunea, putem brusc pricepe de ce oamenii aleg s\u0103 plece de pe lume. Bucata unu este faptul c\u0103 via\u0163a lor suge, din motivele cele mai diverse; au diverse scenarii care fac ca lucrurile s\u0103 nu se \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u0163easc\u0103 niciodat\u0103, indiferent c\u00e2\u0163i parteneri sau c\u00e2te locuri de munc\u0103 ai schimba. Bucata doi este c\u0103 scenariul nu suport\u0103 schimbare, cu c\u00eet mediul r\u0103m\u00eene mai static cu at\u00eet lucrurile sunt mai u\u015for de condus \u00een direc\u0163ia \u00een care func\u0163ioneaz\u0103 ele deja. Avem deci acel catch-22<\/em> perfect, cercul vicios al faptului c\u0103 e\u015fti \u00een mizerie \u015fi simultan \u0163i-e fric\u0103 de schimbare ca de moarte. Ele-s unul \u015fi acela\u015fi lucru \u00een aceast\u0103 situa\u0163ie, iar m\u0103car moartea nu doare prea mult. Moartea promite mai mult, o sc\u0103pare rapid\u0103 \u00een locul durerii de a-\u0163i vedea scenariul pus la \u00eencercare ((Challenged<\/em>)).<\/p>\n

~*~<\/p>\n

Desigur, explica\u0163ia e o pastil\u0103 facil\u0103 \u015fi probabil amendabil\u0103 dac\u0103 nu direct demontabil\u0103. Totu\u015fi, g\u0103sesc c\u0103 serve\u015fte ca un bun punct de pornire \u00een a diseca orice persoan\u0103 care se pl\u00e2nge mereu c\u0103 “totul merge na\u015fpa”.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u00cenc\u0103 nu cred c-am discutat despre sinucidere pe-aici, este? Lucru curios, nu m-a interesat niciodat\u0103 tema dincolo de floricelele desenate de Cioran pe marginea chestiunii. ~*~ M\u0103 g\u00e2ndeam la ideea lui Eric Berne, aceea de life script. Omu’ adun\u0103 frumos experien\u0163e \u00een via\u0163\u0103, le filtreaz\u0103 prin capul s\u0103u propriu, uneori prin prostiile r\u0103mase acolo din …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-3113","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-fara","7":"anons"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/daimon.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3113","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/daimon.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/daimon.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/daimon.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/daimon.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3113"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/daimon.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3113\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3311,"href":"http:\/\/daimon.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3113\/revisions\/3311"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/daimon.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3113"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/daimon.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3113"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/daimon.me\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3113"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}